Reviving Trust: How to Heal & Rebuild After Sexual Betrayal | Kylene Turhune

Overview

In this episode, Rachel sits down with Kylene Turun, CEO and founder of the Phoenix Transformation Project. Kylene is a functional diagnostic nutrition practitioner, master NLP life coach, and master QTT practitioner who works with women recovering from sexual betrayal trauma after discovering a partner’s pornography or sex addiction. This conversation covers how common this experience actually is, what discovery typically looks like, the physical and emotional toll of betrayal trauma, the therapeutic tools that support recovery, how to rebuild safety in the body and the relationship, and why open communication around intimacy and difficult topics matters long before and long after any crisis.

You’ll Learn

• Why pornography and sex addiction is far more prevalent than most people realize, particularly in religious communities, and why shame keeps it largely hidden even though support for both partners is critically needed
• How discovery typically happens, whether through confession or accidental finding, and why the betrayed partner is almost always completely blindsided
• Why approximately 70% of betrayed partners develop PTSD symptoms, and how the physical body responds to the chronic loss of safety through disrupted hormones, immune function, sleep, and digestive health
• What CSAT (certified sex addiction therapy) is, why combining it with a trauma processing modality like EMDR or brain spotting produces the best outcomes, and why the framing of lifelong addict identity can undermine recovery
• How NLP and QTT work to identify subconscious beliefs formed in early childhood, trace them to their origin, extract beneficial learnings from those experiences, and replace harmful beliefs with chosen new ones
• Why establishing physical, emotional, and relational safety has to come before any other part of recovery, what that looks like in practice, and why clearly communicated boundaries with real consequences are essential
• How to approach rebuilding physical intimacy through baby steps that the betrayed partner designs and controls, and why the 90-day abstinence recommendation for the addicted partner exists
• Why sex addiction is fundamentally an intimacy disorder, and why pornography actively teaches the opposite of what real intimacy requires
• How chest tapping over the sternum activates the vagus nerve and parasympathetic nervous system and can be used in real time to interrupt anxiety and panic

Commit to moving your healing forward in whatever way is possible right now. Invest in the tools and people that can help you do that. It is not always comfortable or free, but it is what allows you to eventually look back and say: I know who I am, I like who I am, and I am going to be okay.